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Karelis Barrios“I often reference Maya Angelou’s quote, ‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel’,” says Karelis Barrios. “It’s the resounding philosophy of who I want to be as a leader.”

As Global Head of Wholesale Lending Operations at Citi, Barrios leads with a rare mix of humility and resolve, shaped by a path that began far from Wall Street. She shares how her immigrant journey, an early leadership misstep, and a lifelong pursuit of “optionality” have shaped her approach to leading teams, mentoring others, and defining success by her own measure.

Widening the Aperture of What’s Possible

Born in Cuba, Barrios moved to the United States while in middle school, arriving with little to no English proficiency. While ESL classes helped her pick up the language, she struggled with pronunciation, leading her father to send her to a four-week immersion program in Tennessee focused purely on diction.

“I was upset at him at the time about going, but I wonder if some of the opportunities I received would still be the same if I hadn’t gone,” she reflects now. It’s a small, formative example of a theme that runs through her career: the compounding value of decisions made early that widen the aperture of what’s possible later.

That aperture kept widening. Barrios went on to study at the University of Miami and, despite never having set foot in New York, accepted a job there with Morgan Stanley the moment it was offered. She admits she was drawn in as much by the romance of the idea of living in New York as by the opportunity itself. Twenty years, several institutions, and a role building an organization from scratch at Capital One later, she joined Citi a little over four years ago to become the Global Head of Wholesale Lending Operations.

“I love lending,” Barrios says. “When you look at even the most complicated products in a bank, at their foundation, almost everything comes back to it.” What sealed it for her was Citi itself, not only its scale, but also the people she met along the way.

“Citi is the most global bank, and that’s not by accident,” she asserts. “You’ll meet people sitting in offices all over the world, and you can walk into an office and hear a dozen different languages being spoken. It’s really impressive.”

Learning to Lead by Failing First

The moment that most shaped Barrios as a leader is not a triumph, but rather a formative challenge during her first leadership role.

“I had this idea that leadership meant I had to take responsibility for everything, and make sure I was personally the one doing everything,” Barrios recalls. That approach ultimately proved unsustainable and led to an adjustment in her scope. It was, by her own account, a sobering experience. She came to realize that as a leader, success was no longer measured by how much she alone could produce, but by how well a team around her could perform without her hands on every piece of it.

“It was an adjustment to get to a place where I realized it’s not about highlighting what I’m doing but shining a light on the work that my team is doing.” Recognizing her team’s work, rather than completing it herself, she learned, was what moved people to contribute. Later, that same manager who had been part of the earlier scope adjustment gave her another opportunity, reinforcing that the experience was not an endpoint but part of her development as a leader.

“A step back in leadership does not have to be the end of the story. Sometimes it creates the space to grow, and strong leaders recognize when someone is ready to be given another opportunity”

Mentors at Every Level

For Barrios, the best mentors are the ones who show you a different perspective on what’s possible. One mentor, a now retired executive she still considers a friend, gave her an opportunity she wasn’t fully sure she was ready for. “He saw potential in me that I wasn’t yet seeing in myself,” she says. “We all need someone to give us that next big opportunity.”

Barrios also believes that guidance doesn’t always have to come from people with more experience, it can be equally powerful coming from someone more junior. She recalls one colleague, roughly a decade younger, who helped her reframe a moment of anxiety before a new role.

“She just looked at me and said, ‘What are you so worried about? The imposter never thinks they’re the imposter.’ And it hit me: I was overanalyzing something I was genuinely excited about. I have learned to trust my gut, and recognize that sound advice can come from many directions, not just from those with the most seniority.

Responsible Leadership, and the Will to Win

In considering what leadership will require in the years ahead, particularly as AI reshapes the industry, Barrios emphasizes responsible leadership: balancing growth and innovation with integrity and being honest with teams about how technology will change roles while committing to building new pathways for people affected by that change.

That sense of responsibility doesn’t dampen her ambition, if anything, it sharpens it. “I want to win,” Barrios says. “I want my team to win. I want Citi to win.” For her, winning isn’t disconnected from responsibility; it’s the mechanism through which a bank makes good on its role in the broader economy, “the fabric of how money and commerce move.” Not every innovation cycle produces winners, she notes, drawing a comparison to past waves of transformation.

“Think about the railroad, or radio — hugely innovative ideas, but not every company that invested in them survived. It’s going to be the same with AI. Not every AI company is going to be a winner. The work we do, the careful analysis and attention to numbers, matters because it helps maintain liquidity and stability in the markets, in ways that impact people more than they may realize”

Success and Optionality

If there’s a single word Barrios would hand to her younger self, it’s optionality. “The truest measure of success is how much optionality you have,” she emphasizes. “You work hard for the options that success provides you.” It’s a principle she’s tried to instill in her own children: that choice itself, not any particular choice, is what builds self-worth and reduces stress.

For Barrios, that optionality shows up in the everyday. It’s what lets her carve out the time to make her kids, her greatest passion outside of work, a priority. Every Sunday, she cooks, pre-making lunches and snacks for the week from scratch, and explains, “it’s my way of showing them love.”

However, Barrios is careful to note that none of this optionality was hers alone to build. She recognizes that her parents and grandparents gave up far more than she initially understood in order to give her options she didn’t yet know she’d been given. When she made managing director, a milestone celebrated across the financial services industry, she called her parents, and her father said simply in Spanish: Nos ascendieron. “They promoted us.”

“That story still warms me,” Barrios says with a smile. “It’s not about being an immigrant. I work with plenty of people who are the first in their family to go to college, or the first to make what they make. Those are big, powerful moments people carry in different ways.”

That kind of inheritance, she says, never felt like weight. It felt like a cloud of love surrounding her, proof that she could have ended up somewhere very different, and instead, gets to do this.

By Jessica Robaire

Marie Bober“I naturally step into a role when there is a dearth of leadership,” says Marie Bober. “It’s just part of who I am – I see the need and think, ‘I got it.’”

From captaining sports teams as a kid to speaking up in moments of silence, taking charge has always felt instinctive for Bober. “I come from a really long line of very bossy women,” she laughs. “I think it’s probably genetic.” While her grandmothers ran their households with authority, her mother broke barriers, becoming one of the first women to earn a PhD in chemistry from NYU in 1972.

That inherited sense of purpose shaped Bober’s own unconventional path. She started college as a chemistry major but quickly pivoted to psychology. Drawn to forensic work, she earned a master’s and spent three years at a pediatric psychopharmacology lab at Massachusetts General Hospital researching ADHD and pediatric bipolar disorder.

“My plan was to go on to get my PhD, but research itself started to feel like a tough long-term path with low pay, questionable ethics in some corners, and not a great ROI if you wanted a sustainable career.”

Still captivated by the intersection of law and human behavior, Bober pivoted again, this time to law school at Northeastern University. Being a part of Northeastern’s distinctive co-op program allowed her to try a little bit of everything: working with a solo practitioner, in a judge’s chambers, the DA’s office, and an in-house legal team.

“In-house was by far my favorite, but you don’t just go from law school to in-house,” says Bober. Instead, she built her experience through small firms, auditing work, and ultimately opened her own practice while keeping her eye on the long game.

Bober’s diligence paid off when a friend offered her an in-house legal role at Gracie Asset Management, a Moelis subsidiary. The only catch was the job was in New York, which meant that Bober and her wife had to live long distance for a few years. When Gracie had a key man event resulting in steep layoffs, Bober moved over to the parent company. After a few internal moves – and the sudden loss of a friend that left a senior counsel role vacant – she was promoted into her current role as Chief Compliance Officer and Senior Counsel at Moelis Asset Management.

Breadth that Delivers

Looking back on what has helped her succeed, Bober points to adaptability and a breadth of knowledge, both of which are essential in a role that spans legal and compliance.

“To be in this particular role, you can’t be rigid or precious,” she explains. “We’re an entrepreneurial business…everybody’s got to do a little bit of something, and you have to be okay with that. We’re always thinking about new strategies, markets to tap and ways to get clients. It’s flexibility and a willingness to pick up the next thing and learn.”

Bober points to the growth of the business as another part of what requires adaptability: “when we started, we were private equity. Now we’re private equity, broadly syndicated loans, direct lending, seeding of emerging managers, venture capital.”

As the business expands, so too does Bober’s knowledge base, which is necessary for her to guide legal and compliance issues.

“I call myself a triage nurse because there are certain areas that I’m deep in, like fund formation or structuring, but then I also have to be able to direct counsel for things like litigation, tax matters, or employment. I might not be an expert on all those issues, but I must be conversant enough so that my subject matter experts can direct me effectively.”

What They Didn’t Teach in Law School

Beyond technical range and flexibility, Bober believes that one skill rises above the rest when it comes to lasting success: knowing how to navigate people.

“How to handle and approach people is key; it gets you so much further than even your technical knowledge,” she emphasizes. “One of the things law school doesn’t teach you is that if you’re a practicing lawyer in a firm, networking is 98% of your job. To be a partner at a law firm means that you bring in a good amount of business.”

Bober adds, “My boss likes to joke that he thinks that my psych degree sometimes helps me more than my law degree because it definitely gives you a framework for understanding people.”

That understanding shapes the way Bober communicates, builds relationships, and earns trust, especially in the context of leadership and knowing how to manage in all directions.

“Managing up is a skill that’s rarely taught, and it matters just as much as managing direct reports. I’ve learned how to communicate differently depending on who I’m talking to, and how to present something in a way that gets the right response.” As Chief Compliance Officer, she often needs people to act on specific requests and ideally, do so with genuine buy-in. “I’ve seen people try to lead through fear or pressure, but that only works for so long. Eventually, people tune you out.”

It is a message she impresses on junior staff as well: “be proactive, message appropriately, be polite and respectful, and if you make a mistake or get it wrong, have the ego to walk it back and take responsibility. It builds trust.”

Leadership as a Team Sport: Fostering Growth Over Competition

In an industry known for individual ambition, Bober takes a different approach to leadership; one that is shaped by hard-earned lessons and a clear sense of the kind of environment she wants to create.

“I’m a competitive person,” she says, “but I try not to be competitive at work. That’s not the environment I want to foster.”

Earlier in her career, Bober saw firsthand how toxic leadership can erode trust. She recalls a former manager who guarded her influence closely and refused to use any of her political capital to support others.

“When my mom passed away, I got two days of bereavement. Other department heads had given people the full week, but my boss told me if I wanted the extra time to attend the funeral, I’d have to use vacation days. She didn’t want to spend any of her political capital justifying why I was not billing or there for that week.” That experience left a mark, but also a guidepost: “It taught me exactly the kind of leader I don’t want to be.”

Now, as a senior leader herself, Bober sees mentoring others not as a threat, but as part of what defines strong leadership. She draws inspiration from Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, a sport she trains in outside of work.

“My coach always says he never hides the best parts of his game because if someone can master it in two weeks and beat him, they deserve to win.” The same philosophy, she says, applies in leadership. “Helping my associate grow, bringing her along and giving her what I can to help her succeed doesn’t threaten me; it strengthens the team, and if I ever move on, she’s ready to step in.”

Success, On and Off the Mat

Whether she is preparing for a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu tournament in New Jersey or aiming for another podium finish at Masters Worlds in Las Vegas, Bober brings the same focus and drive to the mat that she brings to her role at Moelis. A two-time Masters World Champion as a brown belt and now a black belt competitor, she thrives on the discipline and challenge of competing and on the fulfillment it brings outside the office.

That mix of ambition and purpose is intentional. “I strove to have an in-house position. I strove to have work-life balance in my career,” she says. “And I think I’m in a spot where I can do both.”

For Bober, success is not about chasing the highest title or the biggest paycheck. It’s about feeling grounded, challenged, and able to pursue what matters. “I can sing in a rock choir on Tuesday nights. I can do jiu jitsu. That’s what makes it all worth it.”

By Jessica Robaire

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Career paths can be unpredictable, peppered with pivot-points, and rife with opportunities that can make – or break – your trajectory. The path to the C-Suite isn’t a straight line, nor is it one you can coast along. If you aren’t scared just a little bit along the way, you probably aren’t moving fast enough or taking (informed) risks!

Getting to the C-Suite can be a daunting journey for even the most seasoned professionals. Hard work alone is not enough, and can actually keep you stuck at your current career level rather than catapult you forward.
If hard work isn’t the answer, how do you get to the C-Suite? I called several leaders that I know and respect for their advice. Here’s what they had to say:

Never stop learning

Pay attention to the leaders you admire and seek to understand what makes them stand out. “The biggest mistake a leader can make is to stop learning,” shared Rose Else-Mitchell, Executive Vice President at Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

“Modeling continuous learning creates a culture that benefits everyone, encourages risk, innovation and self-responsibility.”

Seek out daily opportunities to learn and demonstrate your readiness for a promotion. Don’t wait for a bigger title to show others that you’re capable of operating at that next leadership level today.

Have a vision

“Hope” is not a strategy to adopt when it comes to managing your career. Whether your goal is to achieve the top job, move to a vice president role, or from manager to director, you need a plan — and to execute that plan!

“Make sure it’s your plan.” advises Barbara Dondiego, CMO at AVOXI. “If you choose to ‘Lean In,’ make sure you understand your reasons for doing so. Run towards the hard problems that others step away from. It’s the best preparation for the C-Suite you can ever have.”

Broaden your point of view

In the early stages of our career, we tend to have a narrow point of view, and be focused on our immediate function and area of expertise. Success in the C-Suite requires that you have a broad leadership point of view.

Susan Reynolds, former COO at Naviasys, recommends that you “be a business person who understands your business or profession. Focus on what matters to your company and know your stuff. Make your company profitable by contributing to the skills of your group, and be accountable for the failures, as well as the successes.”

As a CXO, you’ll need to understand the whole business: from finance to operations, technology to HR. Get involved and volunteer for cross-functional projects. If you’re not equipped to spend time in these parts of your organization, then take a class, study, seek out a mentor from across the company, and start talking the language of business.

Nurture professional relationships

“Success in your career is driven by the relationships you form,” says Judy Batenburg, SVP of IT Services at Starz. “Get to know your allies, those who can help you move forward, and also those who might hinder your success. Work to cultivate strong professional relationships.”

Relationships matter, especially when it comes to moving your career forward. Why? Because the senior roles aren’t (usually) filled as a result of a job advertisement or resumes submitted online. Before a senior role even hits the job market, conversations will have been held along the lines of, “Who do we know that could fill this role?” “Who do we want to invite to join our team?”

Make sure to cultivate your professional relationships now, so that your name is the first that is suggested. Your future career progression may depend on it!

Invest in your support network

Shannon Sisler, SVP of Talent Management Human Resources at Western Union, recognized that as she moved through her career, there were ever increasing personal and professional demands on her time. Having a strong support network is vital, and can include someone that takes care of the yard, more flexible child support, an awesome assistant at work, a personal trainer, and even someone that can ensure you get regular date nights with a partner. Shannon advises: “Don’t feel guilty asking for help… you can’t be everything to everyone. Invest your efforts in the personal and professional areas that matter most!”

Don’t watch the game. Play the Game.

As you climb the corporate ladder, you will encounter hurdles. You can either rail against the system and refuse to play – or, you can choose to learn the game, play the game, and ultimately change the game.

Simone Reynolds, Chief Human Resources Officer at Coalfire Systems Inc. advises “Be authentic! Don’t change to fit the mold instead stay within the guardrails and be authentically you. In doing so you build trust, and the ability to influence others in a multitude of ways. The best way to change things is to work the system not revolt against it.”

Your Steps to the C-Suite

There is no one path to reach the C-suite. This is your career journey to find and forge. You can either wing it and hope that your smarts land you your dream role, or you can be deliberate, thoughtful, and take control of the process. Experience has shown that the latter approach is more likely to result in a successful outcome. Only you can choose to invest the time in developing your self and demonstrating your leadership capabilities that set you up for success today — and for tomorrow.

Morag Barrett is the best-selling author of Cultivate: The Power of Winning Relationships and CEO of SkyeTeam, an international HR consulting and leadership development company. Morag’s experience ranges from senior executive coaching to developing leaders and teams across Europe, America and Asia. SkyeTeam works with clients in a range of industries including: Healthcare, Telecoms, Mining, Manufacturing, Engineering, and Technology. www.skyeteam.com