A mutually beneficial approach to engaging men to advance women
By Chris Brassell
Much of what I read about advancing women’s careers has been from the perspective of women. Although this is an important dialogue that we must continue, we are all—women and men—responsible for maintaining a diverse, inclusive culture. By bringing men—especially business leaders—into the conversation, we can reach the best possible solution, so that everyone walks away from the table feeling like they have gained something.
As part of my role at PwC, I lead a series of dialogues with our male leaders that aim not only to educate but also to provide a forum for talking candidly about the challenges they face as they work to strengthen the sense of inclusion our professionals feel in our firm. Bob Moritz, PwC’s chairman and senior partner, has set the tone at the top by prioritizing diversity and inclusion; creating lasting change, however, this requires that all our partners, principals and staff participate in bringing that vision to life.
We have made significant progress, but this journey requires patience, courage and the ability to communicate across differences. In a negotiation, when the parties stop communicating, the process can break down.
Before I delve into what men stand to gain from supporting the advancement of women, let’s take a look at a few ways communications can break down and what we can do about them:
1) Failed connections – In their recent New York Times article, “Speaking While Female,” Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant examined an unpleasant gender bias professional women often face during meetings: the risk of being interrupted and unheard (although a man saying the same thing will get nods of approval) or the risk of being disliked or considered too aggressive. For example, a male TV producer helped craft a solution (no interruptions during pitches) that made the entire team more effective. Had the suggestion come from a woman, it might also have gone unheard – thus highlighting the important role men can play in recognizing subtle biases and leveling the playing field for women, so all perspectives can be heard.
2) Fear of engagement —All too often, even well-meaning men don’t speak up for women because they fear making a mistake or being criticized. For example, some white males at PwC have voiced concerns about being automatically labeled “the bad guys” during diversity discussions. As another article by Adam Grant pointed out, individuals struggle to speak for or help groups with which they don’t identify. That changes once the individuals feel they have a vested interest. Helping men and women build stronger relationships and identify opportunities for mutual gain, such as through candid and collaborative dialogues, can be a big part of the solution.
3) Questioned intent —I’ve also heard from well-meaning men that they sometimes feel that women resist their efforts to reach out. Women either did not realize assistance was being offered or they wanted to prove they could do it on their own. We all need to be more attuned to those around us and give them the benefit of the doubt. And men may need to re-examine their approach to help make sure that it is respectful and authentic without the implication that men are here to solve women’s problems.
So with these potential pitfalls in mind, what do men (and the organizations they work for) stand to gain from stepping out of their comfort zone and helping advance women’s careers?
1) Enhanced leadership skills —Investing in relationships and building trust are key leadership skills. When men sponsor and mentor only those who look like them, they overlook important leadership opportunities and alienate potential allies. At PwC, we require our firm leaders to have had distinctive experiences working with diverse professionals, because we believe it will help them broaden their perspectives, while creating a more inclusive environment.
2) Financial success —Many organizations tie leaders’ salaries and promotions to the success of their unit or the overall organization. Several studies show that organizations perform better when women are well represented. PwC’s own research also demonstrates the critical importance of this issue. Bottom line: Diversity drives innovation—a necessity in today’s fast-changing business world. Moreover, when women feel leaders appreciate their contributions and are optimistic about their professional futures, employee engagement increases and turnover decreases—another win-win, particularly given the shortage of skilled talent.
3) Market relevance —In an increasingly complex and global business environment, the ability to work, manage and communicate with people who are different from you is an essential skill. A better understanding of the challenges for women in the workplace can improve men’s interactions with clients and other stakeholders, who increasingly expect cultural dexterity from service professionals. Men who can easily and effectively work and build bridges with diverse stakeholders create opportunities for themselves and their organizations.
4) Personal gain —Like women, many men are more than just business professionals – they are fathers, husbands, uncles and grandfathers. Research from Catalyst shows that gender equality provides significant personal benefits to men, including better health and enhanced relationships with your spouse or partner.
With a lot to gain and little to lose, all men, particularly the business world’s white male majority, need to join the conversation about advancing women. The launch of the HeForSheCampaign’s “10X10X10” initiative, for which PwC is a founding sponsor, at the World Economic Forum in Davos last month, should help take that conversation to a new level, but we as a society still have a long way to go to drive lasting change.
As I’ve learned in my discussions, this change won’t come naturally to all. Organizations need to create safe forums where both parties can share their perspectives and educate their people, because even the most well-intentioned individuals may have blind spots. Women can help bring men into diversity conversations by inviting male colleagues to participate in women’s networking events and encouraging them to act as “allies.” I also encourage my female colleagues at PwC to reach out to senior male colleagues to find common ground. We are often surprised by how much we share in common, and how much both mentors and mentees learn from each other’s differences.
If both men and women can hear each other out and be open to new perspectives, the result can be a winning proposition for everyone in the room.
