By Natalie Sabia (New York City)
Cheryl Pollard never imagined herself as a mentor, especially to someone thousands of miles away. A former vice president of merchandizing and product development for Water Works, Pollard learned about Infinite Family, a not-for-profit that connects mentors from all over the United States with orphans and other vulnerable children in Africa through video conferencing, from a member of her church. “I never really mentored anyone before,” said Pollard, “so I was excited to give it a try.”
Mentors have to complete a training program which teaches them the finer points of mentoring as well as the technical training necessary to provide the mentoring via the computer. The mentors then set up a re-occurring weekly appointment for the video conference with their mentees. Pollard said, “Liba and I talk every Saturday at 8:00am and, if something comes up, we e-mail to stay in touch.
Pollard has been paired with Liba, a 12-year-old refugee from Zimbabwe, for over two years now. Liba relies on Pollard as both a mentor and a friend in which to confide. “Liba has become so special in my heart and a part of my life,” said Pollard. She is deeply affected by the way that the friendship has had a major impact on Liba. “At first I was asking her so many questions. I didn’t understand that we didn’t always have to be talking to fill the silence,” said Pollard. It took time for Liba to warm up to Pollard, especially because they come from such opposite worlds. “Liba was so shy at first and now she sings and dances,” said Pollard, whose favorite thing now is to turn on her iPod and let Liba dance. In 2007, Pollard even had the opportunity to go to South Africa to meet Liba in person. “The moment I saw her it was as if we’ve always known each other, she just hugged my waist,” said Pollard.
“I always thought of myself as a generous person, but now it’s a whole different feeling to know I am in her heart everyday.” Barbara Draimin, Director for the City of New York Department of Social Services is happy to be mentoring these “at risk” South African teens as well. “It gives me the chance to meet a young person and know them from a different perspective.” Draimin, the original founder of NYC community based organization called The Family Center, was approached to become a mentor during the early days of the program by a member of Infinite Family who knew of her through the non-for-profit community. Draimin eagerly accepted the challenge.
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